Shame
Why does a person need shame?..
A childish attitude to adult needs brings a person down to the level of an animal.
A sex addict will be constantly «unfairly» humiliated and used by other people – after all, he or she only looks human. And when they stroke her «kitty» or caress his «snake» – ne will have no choice but to purr or wriggle.
The sex addict will constantly have difficulty building a family. It is sex addicts who build with their herd the very statistics of pregnancy-driven marriages and divorces after child's birth.
A sex addict will only be able to find a labour job – for some reason they never hire one as a manager, although one is very much offended by this, he or she takes offense at the animal and occasionally (usually drunk) demonstrates purely bestial superiority over the boss (for which is usually fired).
A sex addict simply does not understand that the need for reproduction is different from the need for shelter and food. It presupposes not only the right, but also the duties – and one must not only to be able to cope with these duties, but also actual factual be coping with them every day non-stop.
In general, the right to satisfy any need presupposes some job – but for a sex addict, who remains a child in the body of an adult, this becomes especially obvious in the case of sex.
If such an infant persists in the belief that he or she should have sex, and should not do anything for this, then the society around gently, but quite decisively (for educational purposes) begins to deprive the possibilities of satisfying his or her other needs.
A sex addict who is persistent in his parasitic behavior is slowly burning through his life.
The sex addict also sometimes pesters people around with his or her selfish whims – therefore, one is surrounded by manipulators rather than friends. One is a shameless manipulator too.
In one's friendly company it is good only in joy: such «friends» usually get different kinds of animal pleasure together, calling it rest. In trouble, however, such friends drift away, easily betraying the appearance of friendship.
The sex addict did not see real friendship, being an animal; and therefore, people in his or her social circle do not stay for a long time, and one friendly company changes to another.
Sincere, open communication with such «people» is almost impossible – therefore, «friends» usually take alcohol and other stimulants together in order to somehow liberate themselves.
It is difficult for such a person to expose weaknesses in front of his or her «friends», because one is (rightly) afraid that they, like animals, will take advantage of this – and therefore a sex addict often strikes at self-development and becomes a client of psychologists.
At the same time, both guru and psychologists for that kind of person in the majority also turn out to be manipulators, more insidious and subtle. But useful manipulators – the more apartments sex addict donates to the sect and the more monthly salaries he or she gave to the psychotherapist, the better one understands the simple:
«If you have adult needs, you are an adult. Unlike a child, meeting the needs of an adult must be deserved. The freeload ended with the first erection (or menstruation). The race is got by running.»
And a person begins to work: cook food, build houses, liberate, entertain, teach, heal – finally receiving (in the process) a logical consequence and a well-deserved reward: loyal friends and beloved family.
And fabulous sex, yes – moreover, a person begins to experience close to sexual satisfaction in the process of his own work.
The whole life of a person (instead of a porn film) becomes one big occupation with Love. If you add to it the flow of work, a barrel of responsibility and a drop of healthy shame.